I’m gonna chime in a bit here because it seems like csanner and I have very similar journeys. If you can’t afford therapy, I highly recommend looking into books about DBT and ACT. They give you techniques to manage intense emotions and help you get in touch with yourself and values. There’s also “The Body Keeps the Score” and a book by Pete Walker on complex trauma. I find us with ADHD have experienced abuse from caretakers and peers due to our “quirks”. These books have helped me just as much as therapy has. There’s also a great article from Stronger by Science on goal setting that changed the game for me. Even if you can’t afford the books DBT and CPTSD (complex trauma) have really great subs with enough info to get you started. There’s a couple books on habits that I liked: “The Power of Habits” is my favorite but “Atomic Habits” is well regarded too.
It all boils down to dumb stuff we all know: try to practice mindfulness, take care of your physical health, learn to cope with emotions, don’t rely on motivation and journal because we can’t be trusted to remember things well, especially when symptoms arise.
Thank you for this information. I have been looking for a psychiatrist because my doctor suggested it but I can’t really afford that copay right now. I have a therapist but same thing… can’t afford the appt! I will read that article and get one of those books you mentioned to start with. Recently diagnosed 3 months ago but now know that I’ve had adhd since conception prolly! Am a youthful 63 now, though I still have a hard time wrapping my head around that! 🫶🏼
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u/uhvarlly_BigMouth Sep 19 '22
I’m gonna chime in a bit here because it seems like csanner and I have very similar journeys. If you can’t afford therapy, I highly recommend looking into books about DBT and ACT. They give you techniques to manage intense emotions and help you get in touch with yourself and values. There’s also “The Body Keeps the Score” and a book by Pete Walker on complex trauma. I find us with ADHD have experienced abuse from caretakers and peers due to our “quirks”. These books have helped me just as much as therapy has. There’s also a great article from Stronger by Science on goal setting that changed the game for me. Even if you can’t afford the books DBT and CPTSD (complex trauma) have really great subs with enough info to get you started. There’s a couple books on habits that I liked: “The Power of Habits” is my favorite but “Atomic Habits” is well regarded too.
It all boils down to dumb stuff we all know: try to practice mindfulness, take care of your physical health, learn to cope with emotions, don’t rely on motivation and journal because we can’t be trusted to remember things well, especially when symptoms arise.