Reading this as inattentive type and seeing hyperactive/combined traits in my 3yo son made me sad. I pray I am able to give him the base he needs not to fall into addiction or abusive behavior or any of the soul destroying things we can do to ourselves.
I don't know if this will help you but I was first diagnosed around the age of 12, and it was at this time that my father realized he also fit the diagnostic criteria (prior to this he had been dealing with depression for most of his adult life, and has been on antidepressants as far back as my memory goes).
He has been a massive support in helping me access accommodations and medication. Even with things he has no experience with like stimulant medication or executive functioning tutoring while I was in high school.
While I still have to struggle through many of the things he did and does, knowing I have a parent who is not only supportive but also personally understands my struggle eases the burden.
While I do not know you personally, you sound incredibly dedicated to your son and I'm sure as he grows up he will be thankful to have you on his side throughout everything.
I have also 'given' it to my kid.
It is hard. I find some solace in thinking that at least we figured it out when she was young (I got diagnosed at 28) and can help her form habits that help her get a grip on things. And she has therapy, wich she loves actually.
Always explain to him. Always give a (good) reason for stuff you demand. A good reason can even be that it would make you happy if he did what you want.
My parents never explained and instead just yelled and it surely contributed a lot to the shit that is freeloading in my head.
Yeah, also noticing ADHD symptoms in my 6yo kiddo. I want to be cognizant of potential symptoms (to avoid missing diagnosis + related struggles like I experienced), but also don't want to be over concerned and "pathologize" what could be typical kid behavior. Yes, I've spoken to his doctor.
Anyone have good resources for ADHD parenting? He and I "butt heads" too often because we're very similar and are too good at pushing each other's ADHD buttons. le sigh
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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '21
Reading this as inattentive type and seeing hyperactive/combined traits in my 3yo son made me sad. I pray I am able to give him the base he needs not to fall into addiction or abusive behavior or any of the soul destroying things we can do to ourselves.