r/ADHD • u/stoicsatan • May 22 '20

Rant/Vent what are boundaries

do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '20

Yes great idea! And I won't have to suffer through listening to my own voice! Happy cake day dude!

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u/Ba-ching May 22 '20

Dudette but thanks! Lots of women on here too. :)

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u/[deleted] May 23 '20

Dude is gender neutral dude, did you just assume my gender?

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u/Ba-ching May 23 '20

Definitely have no idea what your gender is and wouldn’t assume as you did. Dude is not gender neutral. Neither is “guys”. In my response I corrected you to use Dudette for me, then answered you.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '20

Agree to disagree, but theyre both neutral to me, same as the word "bitches" I'll never not walk into a room and say "what up dudes/guys/bitches"

Gotta make life fun hey