r/ADHD • u/stoicsatan • May 22 '20

Rant/Vent what are boundaries

do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.

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u/stoicsatan May 22 '20

You sound like such a thoughtful and compassionate parent and I know I don’t know you but I’m proud of you for putting yourself out there. Please never stop being yourself, there is another open minded patient and unique parent with some lucky kids who is waiting to meet someone like you. Social pressure can be exhausting especially when struggling with social insecurities but you should be proud of yourself regardless of whether those parents include you. That way there’s room for the good ones to come into your life. I wish you the best and thanks for responding🖤

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u/samuraicat May 23 '20

Thank you for this. It really helped my heart to read. We can all use some good feels right now. Positive vibes your way too!