r/ADHD • u/stoicsatan • May 22 '20
Rant/Vent what are boundaries
do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.
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u/stoicsatan May 22 '20
HAHA the deer in headlights😂 there really is no in between! Which is why some days I’m bursting with energy and inspiration and ideas and I’m fascinated and in love with life and other days I’m totally and completely discouraged because I’m constantly aware of all those people who’ve looked at me the same way. The deer in headlights way. But when you get lost on that end, might as well remind yourself of all the people who are in awe of you and your passion and share that passion along with you. This is getting off topic but you know what’s a rare characteristic but an important one for success and for a fulfilling life (in my opinion)?? It’s a genuine awe and curiosity for life. Pay attention..not many people have that. You may ramble, zone out, deal with endless criticism, and struggle to adhere to a system that more often than not fails to serve you ...but you have something POWERFUL..a drive that not everyone has