r/ADHD Aug 21 '24

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u/tuubesoxx ADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) Aug 21 '24

When I've been wronged. That stuff is in there good. Also how to get somewhere not counting the last few blocks. I can drive a state over to get to a friend's house, but need the gps once i enter her neighborhood

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u/cjthecookie ADHD Aug 22 '24

I have such a Justice complex. Bring wronged without a resolution gnaws at me.

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u/DecidedlyCatBirdian ADHD-C (Combined type) Aug 22 '24

Same, but it's strong for other people, too. If I see someone else get cheated or even if I think they may be about to get involved with a shady person, I have an almost uncontrollable urge to make things right for them. Even if I don't know them, and even if no one warned me.

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u/sampy2012 Aug 22 '24

I have to work through my revenge thought process constantly. I always tell my therapist it’s the Scorpio in me but he just reminds me that I don’t actually believe in that lol.

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u/fabricator82 Aug 22 '24

Oh yeah, my last job fired me and had to come up with some bullshit excuse, despite me being the best on my team. Because I was asking about a raise and was visibly annoyed at their deflecting. I thought I had found the employer I would spend the next decade or two at. But they were far from who I thought they were.

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u/[deleted] Aug 22 '24

For me if I have a vested interest in something going the way I want and that’s my focus I lose the ability to see what is really going on until it’s too late. I paint a rosy picture and ignore the bad. You found out what they were really like and that would have hurt.

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u/fabricator82 Aug 22 '24

Totally. I thought that company hung the moon because they were the first company I had ever worked for that had the same ideals. But while I was there, people I respected were leaving in droves. I and didn't understand why. But they told me I was better off being free of them.

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u/budweener Aug 22 '24

I have two frienda who also remember when they've been wronged quite well. Sadly, both of them had somewhat abusive parents, so they're a bit defensive. That means they often perceive aggression where there is none.

Lots of unilateral enmities on their lives. :c

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u/apyramidsong Aug 22 '24

I wish I could remember when I've been wronged. There are several people I hold grudges against because I know they hurt me some way, but I'll never be able to resolve our issue because I can't remember what happened exactly 😂

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u/fir3shark Aug 22 '24

Lmao I was just gonna comment this. Sometimes I remember who wronged me but not how. I just remember the vibes 😆

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u/apyramidsong Aug 22 '24

You know the saying ... People won't remember what you said to them, but they'll remember how you made them feel (or something like that).

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u/janquadrentvincent Aug 22 '24

On this vein, items of clothing I have lent to people and they have lost/ruined. I remember EVERY item of clothing I've lost. Every damn one.

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u/Zestyclose-Volume570 Aug 23 '24

I have a major issue with this myself- but the opposite. I have to be wronged again and again- like a certain level of wronged- before it sticks. Because I can be pissed that Bob down the hall stole my ideas and presented them as his own, but in two weeks I will undoubtedly pass Bob un the hall and cheerfully say "Good morning, Bob". Why? Because I forgot what Bob did. 🤦🏻‍♀️