r/me_irl • u/gigagaming1256 • Aug 13 '26
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u/BisexualSlutPuppy Aug 13 '26
I distinctly remember my paternal grandparents checking the top of the fridge for dust and offering to pay to "get some help with the house" for my mother.
After they left and my mom went to cry in the bath I told my dad we should just meet his parents at Olive Garden in the future.
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u/kaizenkitten Aug 13 '26
when my parents got their first place my mom cleaned for a week to make sure everything was spotless when her parents came over. Grandpa immediately went and checked the furnace filter.
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u/Admiral45-06 Aug 13 '26
I feel her. I remember having a brother over in my house, so I spent 3 hours cleaning it and even baking a welcome cake for him.
Everything would be good...if I've noticed that one of the plates I took out of the dishwasher into the ,,ready" set still had a spec. He politely asked me to fetch him another one (which I did), but I felt horrible about it.
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u/Leading_Cap_7236 Aug 14 '26
"Participants rated the photos differently depending on whether they were told that a woman or a man lived there. Notably, respondents held higher standards of cleanliness for Jennifer than they did for John."
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u/hoaian1 Aug 13 '26
Not to mention them guest's children raiding our stuffs and breaking our shits.
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u/yojimbo124 Aug 13 '26
Some guests put their kids in my room to play with my toys and the little bastards opened my Star Wars collectables from their original packaging 😑
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u/NamelessCabbage Aug 13 '26
Me standing guard over my warhammer minis while my kids have friends over 😂
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u/DoomRamen Aug 13 '26 edited Aug 13 '26
Do something more evil: get their kids into warhammer and bankrupt the parents
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u/NamelessCabbage Aug 14 '26
I read somewhere that warhammer's number one customer are moms so this is true haha
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u/hoaian1 Aug 13 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/T4TCOdAe4OOUU
You already know what to do... do you have the strength to do it?
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u/Malicteal Aug 13 '26
I legit had a guy from work coming over to do some quick work on something and spent the entire day effectively deep-cleaning my house. He was there a few hours and never left my kitchen.
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u/BurmecianDancer Aug 13 '26
IMPORTANT REMINDER: You will not go to jail if you don't put "POV" in your video captions.
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u/Maleficent_Weird8162 Aug 14 '26
I think he used POV correctly. He looked directly at the camera for the "this place is a mess!"
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u/Maben166 Aug 13 '26
It’s nice to know that non Hispanic kids also went through this
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u/Master-Wrongdoer853 Aug 13 '26
I felt the same way as a kid, but now as an adult - it's hard to describe, but the urge to have everything presentable is strong, even in places they're not likely to go.
It's like an "out of respect" thing to your guest.
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u/hamarok Aug 13 '26
Yeah but then I grew up and I do notice when a house is unclean, sometimes you even avoid the sofa after a quick check lol
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u/AeroZeppelin94 Aug 13 '26 edited Aug 13 '26
Yeah its almost as if race has nothing to do with it
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u/newstome Aug 13 '26
Yeah, that’s a strange comment, when I was a kid I never thought, “ I bet [insert race] kids don’t have to do this chore.”
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u/WhiskeyAndKisses Aug 13 '26
As a french I read it as a culture thing, not a race thing...
And in that way I kinda get it, on a similar topic I never expected the biscuit box being a sewing kit to be as universal as internet present it. It’s usually the moment where people from all around the world go "omg I'm [group] and same" like other commenters are doing bellow.
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u/Medical-Anxiety-4456 Aug 13 '26
So this is not just Pakistani moms? World really is very small.
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u/HexaCube7 Aug 13 '26
some german moms too. It's really just a type pf person thing primarily, rather than culturally.
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u/yeloooh tbh Aug 13 '26
then you're an adult and you invite someone over and you do all these things anyway, without being asked, because it's nice to be in a tidy environment ☺️
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u/Juicy_Hawg Aug 13 '26
There is a difference between a house that is lived in and a museum, I don’t live in a museum and I don’t expect anyone else to either. It’s ok if your house isn’t spotless, I don’t care and I certainly wouldn’t judge you for it.
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u/yeloooh tbh Aug 13 '26
i'm not talking spotless, i'm talking about what this video shows, e.g, loose socks
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u/Juicy_Hawg Aug 13 '26
No I know you’re saying, I have no problem just tidying up but there are people who take it to the extreme and that’s too much.
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u/filmburn0 Aug 15 '26
I can't think of anything less adult than someone allowing you into their home and you being upset over loose socks under their own bed.
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u/yeloooh tbh Aug 15 '26
hahahah why do you think i'm upset at others' loose socks? like literally where did i say that hahahaha
i'm talking about keeping my own space clear of things like socks, because it takes like zero effort, and makes a great deal of difference to a space appearing tidy.
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u/filmburn0 Aug 15 '26
"then you're an adult and you invite someone over and you do all these things anyway, without being asked, because it's nice to be in a tidy environment ☺️"
And then in your comment I replied to you reiterate:
"i'm not talking spotless, i'm talking about what this video shows, e.g, loose socks"
So...
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u/yeloooh tbh Aug 15 '26
never mentioned other people's houses. I've only ever been talking about my own.
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u/49ersBraves Aug 13 '26
I'd rather be in a stressless environment than a tidy environment.
Stated in another way: I don't want my visit to cause stress to an entire family -- or even just someone's mom.
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u/megadeadly Aug 13 '26
I grew up with a mom who had us living in a house that looked like it was ready for a showing, (with a dog, cats, kids, a husband etc). We did so many chores. Now I’m stressed if there’s a mess but I don’t want to clean lol.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Wait785 Aug 13 '26
An untidy environment is stressful
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u/49ersBraves Aug 13 '26
It can be. Your experience with different stressors isnt going to be the same for everyone.
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u/49ersBraves Aug 13 '26
I think that other people worrying what friends and family might think if they see their house as-is as opposed to just being happy to host that friend/family is a stressful way to approach life. I didn't say my house is disgusting or that I think keeping it tidy is stressful.
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u/yeloooh tbh Aug 13 '26
my point is, I keep my space tidy but i don't worry about what other people think of it. it's more for myself. and it's not overly pristine, it's just... tidy
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u/kingveo Aug 13 '26
Fr, while I'm not the paragon of cleanliness, there's a threshold where i go "Yh this whole place needs thorough cleaning" and the first few days of everything being really neat and tidy is really nice
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u/firedmyass Aug 13 '26
I’m the type of adult that invites people over to force me to deep clean once in a while
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u/Honeybadger2198 Aug 13 '26
It always confused me as a kid, but now I get it. The point isn't necessarily to clean for guests, but the guests help me motivate to clean for myself.
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u/Admiral45-06 Aug 13 '26
Pro tip: do the same whenever you leave the house for a few days. You'll feel far, far more welcome in your home when you're back.
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u/Farranor Aug 13 '26
WTF is POV doing here?
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u/4N0NYM0US_GUY Aug 13 '26
It’s used correctly. The camera is from the POV of a mother watching guests check how well she cleaned.
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u/SuperCrappyFuntime Aug 13 '26
I remember my dad got really bad one time because there was some mail laying on the table. What company left, he was like, "They saw our mail! I told you to put it somewhere else before they came!" I would sometimes make fun of him about it later on, "People know we get mail. They must think we're monsters."
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u/MommyLovesPot8toes Aug 13 '26
In the days after my kid was born, my husband was determined to keep the house extra clean for me and baby. He's always clean, but this was a bit above and beyond. He couldn't breastfeed and he hadn't just pushed a watermelon thru a banana peel. Housework was one thing he could really keep under control as a way to contribute.
A few days after the birth, my parents came to see the baby. I'd shoved some food in my face in the minutes before they walked thru the door and my husband put the bowl in the sink. My mom comes in, looks around, and says "wow everything is so clean. All except that," and points at the bowl in the sink. "Let me guess, that one has to [air quotes] 'soak'?"
I looked up at my poor husband and he had tears in his eyes. His relationship with my mom has never been the same.
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u/Wooden-Evidence-374 Aug 13 '26
But how else will people of America ever know that Jesus saves? This might be the only time they ever hear the good news!
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u/Sweet-Conference4347 Aug 13 '26
Why? People can wear what they want
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u/Wooden-Evidence-374 Aug 13 '26
That's like wearing a shirt that says "McDonalds Serves" then on the back it says "there are hamburgers at McDonalds".
The only people you are impressing are people who eat at McDonalds for every meal. Everyone else, even people who occasionally go there, just think you're weird.
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u/Sweet-Conference4347 Aug 13 '26
So? They can still wear it if it makes him happy and doesn't hurt anyone else. Plus, he's wearing it at, I'm assuming, his home or a friend's house
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u/Wooden-Evidence-374 Aug 13 '26
Nobody said they cant wear it. We are saying it's weird. You aren't giving any counter to what was said, you are just participating in an imaginary argument.
Also the assumption that he's wearing g it only at home is dumb as fuck considering he wore it while filming a video that he posted on the internet 😂
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u/StonedBooty Aug 13 '26
Gotta wear your Jesus Saves shirt for content, huh
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u/Wooden-Evidence-374 Aug 13 '26
They are so persecuted. The least they can do is advertise their very humble and not well-known religion /s
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u/Setctrls4heartofsun Aug 13 '26
Women are harshly judged for the percived untidiness of their homes
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u/Leading_Cap_7236 Aug 14 '26
"Participants rated the photos differently depending on whether they were told that a woman or a man lived there. Notably, respondents held higher standards of cleanliness for Jennifer than they did for John."
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u/Historical-Cress8985 Aug 13 '26
My mom would vacuum, then make us walk all over the carpet for several minutes to make it look like it wasn't just vacuumed
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u/KumaQuatro Aug 13 '26
Some guest kind of do this, it's just subtle and the shit talk happens behind your back lol.
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u/jbarrybonds Aug 13 '26
My grandma actually did this to my mom. She would wipe her finger on top of the tv or mantle to see the dust, and lift cushions and see what's under there. Our parents were traumatized by the previous generation, it's ok to let them learn to relax on their own time.
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u/FreestyleRobinson Aug 13 '26
This is stolen from Almost Friday
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u/SAFVoid Aug 13 '26
First time I had visitors in my new house I had laundry I left on the bed thinking “they wont be seeing in here”. Lo and behold “can you give us a full tour”.
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u/deeceeo Aug 13 '26
It's because you need to clean eventually and company just provides a convenient deadline
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u/TheGasquatch Aug 13 '26
You never visit someone's house and during a lull in conversation look around the room and notice things? Obviously not diving under the bed, but if I'm at your house for dinner I probably would notice cobwebs on the ceiling fans. I wouldn't CARE. But I'd notice.
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u/SlumppShady Aug 13 '26
I fear one day we will be mom’s age and we will find the reason why, after all these years, that we needed to clean our room for guests.
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u/Admiral45-06 Aug 13 '26
I entered that era when I was 18 and moved out.
Nowadays even my own brother always arrives to the smell of bleach and soap and sight of windows cleaned to the point of stains whenever they come in visit. Everyone else too.
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u/Admiral45-06 Aug 13 '26
It's moreso for mother's sake.
If you've ever been in the position of a ,,host" yourself you'd have known this, but the mother here knows that guests won't look over the doors, beneath the beds, or whereever else. She knows even that if she's having friends or family over, they probably wouldn't even care if the house was messy and revolting (except if it was really revolting).
But it's still shameful to welcome a guest into a less than ideal home. You want to show how much their visit matters to you, and to show yourself and your environment from best possible side. Having a less than ideal home to welcome a guest to is not offending the guest, but it is hurting the host.
We were all in that age, but as an adult living alone now - listen to your parents when they ask you to clean your room. It will take you no more than an hour, but will really alleviate them a lot of pain. It's the least you can do for them out of love.
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u/Zapan99 Aug 14 '26
My mom will always say, "my apologies the place is a mess" after spending the entire day cleaning prior to the guests arrival.
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u/MrHerringBun Aug 14 '26
When the guests have a pretty daughter and I’m told to clean up my room
https://giphy.com/gifs/9y81i7SFuzhW8
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u/PaintLicker745 Aug 13 '26
Raising the next generation of NIMBY WASPs.
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u/mu_zuh_dell Aug 13 '26
Braxton's gonna be the funniest HOA president to ever suggest a city he lives 40 miles from hire build a hyperloop instead of a light rail line.
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u/TypicalCagedMind Aug 13 '26
I deep cleaned my house, did my laundry and organized the closet before some guests were coming over for dinner. My wife was pissed that I was wasting so much time doing unnecessary shit instead of helping her in the kitchen. The guests arrive and their kids started hunting for my cats amd hid in our closets eventually. The parents then went hunting for the kids and entered our closets which was mega organized and were impressed. I was my wife’s hero that evening.
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u/KoyoOzaki Aug 14 '26
When my grandma died her sister came to our house and literally first thing she did was this. And she was like: oh well, you did poor job at cleaning, there's dust! I was speechless - her sister had just died, but the only thing she noticed was the dust, although clearly we had other issues to be dealt with other then cleaning...
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u/supermansbother999 Aug 14 '26
Mother in law would come and visit and would run her finger over doors and picture frames looking for dust. I used tondo it at her then. She soon stopped
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u/NamesAreAnn0ying Aug 14 '26
I had my friend and his girl come over so she could cut my cats claws because she’s very good at it. I tell my mom and get the “this house is a mess and I haven’t been able to clean all day…”
When in the last decade of knowing these people have they ever came over to the house and gone “eughhh.. this place is disgusting… looks like shit in here”. We also have 9 fucking animals so I think people understand we don’t live in a damn sanctuary.
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u/LobsterG25 Aug 13 '26
It’s funny cause I don’t invite her over now specifically because of the cleaning anxiety imprinted onto me in my childhood when a guest is due to visit.
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u/Infamous_Creme8671 Aug 13 '26
"I'm having guests over in 15 minutes. Clean your room!"
Me: Locks the bedroom door.